I just finished watching one of my favorite movies, Secretary. I was making something for a sweet sub friend of mine and promised her that I would watch the movie while I made her present. She hasn’t seen the movie before, so I am sending it along with the present, I hope she likes it.

There’s something just magical about the movie, I love it that much. Maybe not Star Wars love it, because who am I kidding, I couldn’t love it as much as Star Wars (and the thought of Darth Vader ordering me… using the Force on me… to only eat four peas with my single spoonful of creamed potatoes is kind of creepy and not in a good way) but I love it nonetheless.

I empathize with both of the characters. There’s a heavy bit of empathy towards the character of Lee, the Secretary, for both her inner struggles and the way her need or want for pain blossoms. But there’s also a tremendous strength in her, she meets Edward–the dominant– head to head, submissively but in a way that manages to let her hold her own. She is what I would like to think of as the perfect submissive, someone who is submissive by choice and a hundred percent sure of that choice. I also admire her spunk and the way she commands his attention.

On the other hand, in Edward I empathize with his inner turmoil. As hard as it is for someone to admit that they like pain (we are wired to dislike pain, it’s instinctual) socially we are taught nearly from birth that it is even worse to want to give pain. The pleasure he takes in her discomfort is unsettling to him, even though it is pleasurable. He feels conflicted and it’s a conflict I understand completely. I also just love how totally and completely he fucks with her mind– this isn’t simple tie me up and spank me stuff here, this is the real deal.

Best quote of the movie:
E. Edward Grey: Look, we can’t do this 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Lee: Why not?

Why not indeed. I am seriously hoping my friend likes the movie as much as I did– she should do. At only 364 days younger than me, we are pretty close in personalities. Except for how submissive she is.

side note. I like side notes, don’t you? Two things are on my mind at the moment. One is a will I won’t I sort of thing, and the other is JUST HOW GOOD it is to be back and taking calls on a regular basis. It feels fantastic to be talking to people again… and to be receiving little gifts as well.